Is it Just to Insist that Survivors Flee?

The situation in which a survivor recognizes the abusive aspects of a relationship but continues in the relationship is sometimes referred to as 'in contact' In the social work and legal communities this is a term of disapproval. The public health and legal system (let alone popular sentiment) usually insist the survivor end the relationship to receive respect and practical help. The system is 'flee-centric." This is appropriate perhaps for those relationships in which abuse is a progressive process that can only end in death. There are many very good reasons that a survivor may want to stay in contact:

But staying in contact, apart from the natural consequences, has many repercussions:

Community advocates have understood for a long time that the decision to leave or stay belongs with the survivor (and neither decision should trigger a loss in help)